A story of Buddha

Once you turn your face into the face of death and look into it's eyes and look at it like a child. It is your friend not your enemy, enemy is yourself with all your desires, fears, seeking endless pleasures, comparison, competition...etc.

Death is something which gives freedom from all this misery. We must learn how to live in the present and this is possible if we can learn what death is not what after death is. Weather it is death, fear, desire, anxiety or whatever we are magnifying those
problems by running away from them. You can only dissolve them through understanding. Problem and learning can not go together. Suppose if I see fear or my job as a problem I will try to runaway from it. So I think first step is to get detached from
the problem and not look at it as a problem then you will see problem as an opportunity to learn. Unfortunately from our childhood

we are trained for solving problems we never learned how to have joy in solving a problem. We think through comparison and competition learning improves but on the contrary it makes you dull or makes you feel something great about your self which is so foolish in both ways. If you can accept what you are and not trying to change it there is tremendous joy, in this joy only true learning is possible.

Once there was a woman named Kisagotami, whose first-born son died. She was so stricken with grief that she roamed the streets carrying the dead body and asking for help to bring her son back to life. A kind and wise man took her to the Buddha. The Buddha told her, "Fetch me a handful of mustard seeds and I will bring your child back to life." Joyfully Kisagotami started off to get them. Then the Buddha added, "But the seeds must come from a family that has not known death." Kisagotami went from door to door in the whole village asking for the mustard seeds, but everyone said, "Oh, there have been many deaths here", "I lost my father", I lost my sister". She could not find a single household that had not been visited by death. Finally Kisagotami returned to the Buddha and said, "There is death in every family. Everyone dies. Now I understand your teaching." The Buddha said, "No one can escape death and unhappiness. If people expect only happiness in life, they will be disappointed."

When somebody dies I feel sad why?

Is it because he lost his beautiful life or Is it because I lost his companion, all those moments that I cherished with him no more I can have them, if it is I am concerned about myself not his life.

I would like to repeat one must be light to oneself, please don't depend on any book, guru, ideal, friend.....etc to learn about you. It will become a crutch for you. It will be a tragedy if the person becomes important not what he said.