Conflict

One needs patience to learn new things, a mind which is not looking for result all the time.

From childhood one has been told what to do, by parents, teachers, gurus, ideals, books.....etc, and one accepts this as psychological authority. Having such a kind of authority ie) psychological knowledge without my own investigation breeds conflict. Not only outside authority but your own conclusions, opinions, taking sides.....etc. We must question everything that is accepted by the society as morality. Seeing this as a fact means dropping all your accumulated psychological knowledge instantly without giving any time, and be free to say I don't know, is real change. These mails can also be dangerous if they become authority to lead your life, but if you understand it, see it as a fact then it is yours not mine. Because of this reason to say "It will be a tragedy if the person becomes important not what he said".

The question HOW to get rid of conflict is useless, if you see the danger of conflict in day to day life then you will move away from it effortlessly, seeing the danger means you have to be aware when it is really taking place in your mind. In that awareness you will find that psychological knowledge is root of conflict. This you can observe in a child, now please don't say an adult cannot live without any conflict, by saying that you are blocking your own way of investigation.

A boat can travel only in a river that means for boat journey water is the base, in the same manner the birth of conflict happens when there is psychological knowledge without your own understanding or inquiry, psychological knowledge is the base of conflict. That's why psychological authority in the form of religion, guru, sacred books, ideals, your own accumulated knowledge....etc is dangerous. The activity of learning is quiet a different matter than following something. Questioning, being skeptical about what the society accepted as truth and also your own accumulation of knowledge frees your mind. Any quality or virtue comes through understanding and learning not through effort and struggle.

Most of us are not interested to see all this, because it needs your attention and energy so simply we want somebody to tell what to do? I am not disrespectful to you, but as a good friend I would like to point out this to you.