he and his friend on growth...

He used to be very shy, hesitant to speak to others, living with so many problems. He always tried to improve himself (personality development)
he has so many ideals he tries to imitate them. Basically he wants recognization from others like he is very intelligent, kind or some
kind of super humanbeing. He wants to be skillful person in all fields of life. He thought he was in right path as he is struggling to become something.

One find day fortunately another good friend of him asked why you are not happy with what you are?

H -- Him
HF -- His Friend

H : If I am happy with what I am how can I grow?
HF : Whatever the growth that you are saying can you see an end to that?
Your struggle to become something has really brought any change in
you?
H : There is no end to growth we need to struggle till the end of our
life.
HF : If you struggle till the end of your life what place has happiness
and joy in your life?
H : I can struggle and be happy
HF : Is that true? a mind which is struggling to become something and
constantly pushing itself for something can it be happy ever?
H : But if my mind stop struggling it will become dull and lazy.
HF : Is that so? Have you ever lived without that struggle and effort to
become something for a moment and see what happens? Don't you think
all that struggle to become is just loss of energy and is the root
cause of all human misery? Don't you think that very struggle
preventing you to live happily in the present moment?
H : Then you mean to say growth has no value in life?
HF : NO, stop struggling to become something and start understanding what
you are in the present. You might be afraid, unintelligent, selfish,
unhappy person stay with what you are, never say I must, as
struggling has stopped in your mind, your mind will become silent and
in that very silence the understanding of what you are begins, this
understanding is not self improvement, it is self negation it negates
what is wrong in your understanding. This negation is real growth.
Then you will come to know there is great intelligence in being
anonymous not famous, popular all that nonsense. Don't you think it
is time for you to look into yourself to see wheather that struggle
and effort exists in you or not?